By Jennifer Yon

There will be times when people will attack you emotionally and verbally requiring you to reinforce your refusal to quit … ever. Every leader that is on the path to success will eventually be slapped with betrayal at some point on their journey.

Betrayal can be among the most painful experiences. When we realize that someone we trusted and gave to unconditionally attempts to hurt us, human nature creates sadness and emotions that you sometimes don’ t know how to express or resolve.

It happens in business, friendships and even with family. Have you ever considered why people betray you and what are some positive ways to get over it? Or if you are the person that is seeking revenge, what can you do to find peace so you are not at the root of the problem but attempts to repair the mistake? Imagine the growth that could be experienced by the person who wronged you if you extend an olive branch.

On a personal side, I recently experienced betrayal from a client that I thought was a friend. We’ d spent countless hours together attending events and sharing tidbits of our lives. The relationship had become one that I enjoyed so I cultivated it. When she needed me, I showed up. When she was down, I made every effort to pick her up, and at every turn, I supported her in business and personally. In the days following our split, it hurt like hell. I literally was in the dumps for an entire month which was way too long to mourn what turned out to be an unhealthy relationship. I think it was the feeling of uncertainty that was so unsettling or not knowing what I did that caused her to betray me so viciously. I desperately wanted to mend the broken trust, but my attempts were rebuffed at every turn.

Those who insist on taking the low road may think will destroy your creditability, but the power of God is even more powerful. Isn’ t it ironic how God can use that same person to bring more curiosity to your brand and in turn brings more business?

The end game is this— don’ t worry about betrayal. Ask God to provide peace in your heart and trust the process of healing from being bruised by those who feel like they are entitled to your success. At the end of the day, the message of betrayal is the dog that carries the bone … at some point they begin to look like a VICIOUS DOG, and everyone wants to stay away from a vicious dog.

As we continued to climb as people and entrepreneurs, the important lesson is to recognize the signs, reasons and walk to move past the vicious dog!

TOP 5 REASONS OF BETRAYAL

1. You have become a threat to their success 2. Jealousy 3. Feelings of entitlement 4. Intimidation 5. Misery

TOP 8 WAYS TO MOVE ON FROM BETRAYAL

1. Forgiveness 2. Prayer 3. By staying focused and passionate 4. Surrounding yourself with positive people 5. Regain faith 6. Detach from people you don’ t trust 7. Control your emotions 8. Don’ t betray others

One thing to remember, betrayal is an unavoidable life experience— one that may contribute to moving toward a deeper understanding of yourself, wisdom and growth. Growth and transformation hardly ever come without pain. Pain can break the weak or build the strong. Be a fighter for your own peace of mind. I’ m a fighter for me! Hear me Roar!

Let’ s climb together!

KALYSA WILSON, EMAGE STUDIO

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