Find Your Design... Alexia Written The types of people who struggle with setting goals
For some people, sipping a nice hot cup of coffee makes your entire body feel energized, focused and comforted. Coffee in the mornings provides that spark that some of us need to get up out of bed and start our day. For most coffee drinkers who are familiar with the dreaded caffeine crash, the process is the same, you go from feeling good, content and energized to feeling slow, sluggish and blah. I believe setting goals is a lot like drinking coffee. In the beginning when writing goals, it’ s always a good feeling. It brings us a sense of comfort and rejuvenation. Just like the very first sip of coffee in the morning. Once the goals are written down we have this“ now I’ m ready to take over the world attitude.“ Life, however is unpredictable and full of surprises. This can cause us to get overwhelmed, bombarded and distracted. Just like a caffeine crash, we become slow, sluggish and discouraged with pursuing our goals.
There is no one correct way to write goals. Different people work and accomplish things differently, therefore there is no cookie cutter way to write goals. Some people tend to get stressed out easily when it comes to setting a time frame for goals. Others get overwhelmed in the planning part of goal writing. Understanding what type of person, you are will help lay the foundation of how to set goals tailored to who you are. Ciara Colon an author, blogger, public speaker and productivity life coach said there are
“ The five types of people who struggle with setting goals."
The Right Now Type
“ Without patience, we will learn less in life. We will see less. We will feel less. We will hear less. Ironically, rush and more usually mean less.”- Mother Theresa
I personally am categorized as this type of person. I write my goals down, and I do my research and I get this“ I’ m ready to change the world attitude.” I am so eager to get things going I get frustrated. What we must realize is patience is a teacher in the school that is life. It teaches us what we cannot learn any other way. There is nothing wrong with being motivated, however, great things, and great accomplishments do take time. The solution is to set small goals that are achievable with instant gratification. You should also have celebrations to award yourself for being patient and achieving your goals. Everyone should be finding time to celebrate their accomplishments. I feel like this has been helpful for those who may struggle with patience.
The Lack of Commitment Type
Having a non-committal attitude is when a person has difficulty committing to their goals. Today; there are so many different jobs, and opportunities. When life gets tough there is almost always a quick way to get out of it. For example, there is a variety of long healthy ways to lose weight. There are just as many quick and unsafe ways to lose weight as well. When the winds of life start to blow, we can become uncertain and the quick and easy way may seem more tempting. We all will have those moments where we think about it but people who have a Non-Committal Attitude are more likely to lose their commitment all together.
“ Energy goes where energy grows.”( Quote by Lisa Nichols) Meaning where ever you put your focus and most of your energy to that is what will grow. People who have a hard time committing to their goals should focus on doing things that will strengthen their commitment. Surrounding yourself with friends and mentors who will keep you accountable is a great way to overcome this. Also remembering why you are setting this goal in the first place will also keep you motivated to keep your commitment to your goals.
The Dislike Planning Type
A lot of free spirited people and creative people fall under this category. Free spirited and creative people thrive on emotions. This is one of the main things that drives creative people to be original. They tend to think planning things out makes them feel restrictive and leaves no room for expression, freedom and creativity. The solution to this would be to plan things with a lot of small steps of achievement. For example, if a person wanted to start a children’ s clothing line each week for a few hours they could get some designs completed. In contrast to setting a goal that would say“ I need 100 designs in six months.” Paying attention to the process and not so much the strategic over all goals will help.
The People Seekers
Ciara Conlon said,“ There are those who look to others for affirmation, but instead they get discouragement.” It is very normal to go to others to get their advice and or opinion. Your dreams and goals however, are a vision of where you see yourself. Everyone is not going to have that same visions that you have, therefore, it’ s important to watch out for the“ Negative Nay Sayers”. Keep in mind though, that sometimes what sounds like negativity is caution born from their own experiences. When you are being warned that your idea may not be feasible, learn to recognize it as a warning out of concern instead of the negativity it sounds like. If too many people are suggesting you rethink an idea, take heed. Typically, those who genuinely believe in you will couple their caution with alternatives. For example, if you wanted to be a public speaker: going to a public speaking club will help. Be around people who will tell you the truth, and support you moving forward.
The Non-Believer Type
Non-believers are people who set goals they don’ t believe in. Some goals can be scary or unrealistic. Unrealistic is defined as“ not a real expectation” Goals may seem challenging, and they may be farfetched. As long your goals are reachable to you that’ s all that matters.
Matt Mayberry is a former NFL player, a keynote speaker and is CEO of his own training consulting company. During his teenage years, he was a drug addict, and high school