Abuse Can Be Invisible
person is aware they have a cold but others may not notice it in the early stages. In stage 2 the person is functioning but
is no longer living in a healthy state of mind due to the mental abuse. Once the person starts to feel pain from a common
cold they usually use over the counter pain medicine. Stage 3 is when the victim is masking the pain instead of treating the
problem at its root. Often victims say things to themselves to make excuses for the abusers behavior. For example “Oh he
is tired from work, or he didn’t really mean it, or I know he loves me” etc. Turning to substance abuse is another alternative
one might take to mask their abusive situation. Masking the pain but not treating the problem over a long period of time
is harmful and unhealthy. A common cold untreated can cause the entire body to break down in such a way where the
body can no longer repair its own self. Stage 4 is when the abuser is in full control over one’s mind, crippling them from
the inside out. “Instilling or attempting to instill fear is what abusers do to physiologically damage a person. Intimidation,
threatening physical harm to self, victim, and/or others, threatening to harm and/or kidnap children, menacing, blackmail,
harassment, destruction of pets and property, mind games, stalking are examples of what abusers do to ruin a person
mental state of mind.” Abusers are always playing the blame game. They blame their partner for everything including their
abusive actions. A victim can loose their ability to think clearly with out realizing it. Once the abuser has control over the
mind the main power source, a person can be mentally held captive.
The mind is the power source that keeps the physical and emotional departments in alignment. Lisa Nichols a survivor
of Domestic Violence also overcame Clinical Depression and said “Abundant thinkers understand the power of I AM.
Anything after the words I AM is true to the unconscious mind. Even if you know it’s not true, your unconscious mind will
believe it.” To those who may be in a Domestic Violent situation or a stifling unhealthy situation ask yourself: What is your
“I AM”? What are you telling you? What are you allowing others, abusers and or negative naysayers say to you? We, as a
people, we as a community are responsible to help ourselves obtain our own happiness and freedom. We are responsible
for spreading our knowledge about DV to our loved ones, associates and friends. Domestic Violence is a disgusting virus
that attacks a person’s mental, emotional, financial and physical state of being. This type of violence hollows out a person
self identity and their self worth. Today, I challenge every reader to love yourself. Love yourself enough to re-evaluate
all the relationships in your life. Love yourself enough to create your own “I AM” statements that will resignate to your
unconscious mind to a pathway of success happiness and freedom. Lastly, if you are in a Domestic Violent situation love
yourself to find the courage to treat the problem at its root so “You” the beautiful budding rose “You” have the chance to
bloom.
Resources
Domestic Violence Relocation Assistant Programs for Florida
http://fcadv.org/florida-domestic-violence-hotline-1-800-500-1119
https://www.harborhousefl.com
Sources
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm
http://ncadv.org/learn-more/statistics
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http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a37005/statistics-about
http://liveboldandbloom.com/11/relationships/signs-of-emotional-abuse
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http://www.willpowered.co/learn/how-to-influence-the-subconscious-mind
http://family.findlaw.com/domestic-violence/what-is-domestic-violence.html
http://www.woodbridgedvrt.org/pages/fiveforms.html
http://www.cityoforlando.net/police/domestic-violence/
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